Comments on: Be social? I’m not! You mean.. you mean to LIE?!??!? http://www.jonjones.com/2005/06/30/be-social-im-not-you-mean-you-mean-to-lie/ Jon Jones is an Art Outsourcing Manager in the video game industry. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 07:02:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Brian Wanamaker http://www.jonjones.com/2005/06/30/be-social-im-not-you-mean-you-mean-to-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Brian Wanamaker Mon, 11 Jul 2005 01:59:00 +0000 http://thejonjones.com/2005/06/30/be-social-im-not-you-mean-you-mean-to-lie/#comment-34 The most important note you make about being social is to keep it sincere. A lot of people feel that just being out there and staring at someone while they talk, or dominating the conversation counts as being social. What really counts is that people feel that you've heard what they're saying, and are responding to them. The most important note you make about being social is to keep it sincere. A lot of people feel that just being out there and staring at someone while they talk, or dominating the conversation counts as being social. What really counts is that people feel that you’ve heard what they’re saying, and are responding to them.

]]> By: redchurch http://www.jonjones.com/2005/06/30/be-social-im-not-you-mean-you-mean-to-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-33 redchurch Fri, 01 Jul 2005 14:14:00 +0000 http://thejonjones.com/2005/06/30/be-social-im-not-you-mean-you-mean-to-lie/#comment-33 Most people have a social side, they just don't know it. It's a matter of finding the right people. I too have suffered from poor social skills. But if you get me around the right people, I won't shut up! The problem for the antisocial types is they need a good reason to socialize. A lot of us don't like small talk. In that case, what helps is to seek out people you're interested in talking to... this requires some creativity, but you'll find that if you have a reason, a goal, or motivating factor then social groove follows quite naturally. Think of someone you admire, or find interesting. Or somebody you would be able to learn from. Find a way to contact them. Get their email address. This is especially easy in online communities. Is there a person who posts regularly in forums you frequent, and you like what they say? Email them. Strike up a conversation. A dialogue. Go to their blog or website, and get started. A huge portion of being social is simply Having Something to Say, and a person to direct that towards. Have a voice. Have an opinion. Communicate it. Even having a blog is an exercise in being social! Most people have a social side, they just don’t know it. It’s a matter of finding the right people. I too have suffered from poor social skills. But if you get me around the right people, I won’t shut up!

The problem for the antisocial types is they need a good reason to socialize. A lot of us don’t like small talk. In that case, what helps is to seek out people you’re interested in talking to… this requires some creativity, but you’ll find that if you have a reason, a goal, or motivating factor then social groove follows quite naturally. Think of someone you admire, or find interesting. Or somebody you would be able to learn from. Find a way to contact them. Get their email address. This is especially easy in online communities. Is there a person who posts regularly in forums you frequent, and you like what they say? Email them. Strike up a conversation. A dialogue. Go to their blog or website, and get started.

A huge portion of being social is simply Having Something to Say, and a person to direct that towards. Have a voice. Have an opinion. Communicate it.

Even having a blog is an exercise in being social!

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